Every time I consider making a big decision—whether it’s about my career, my relationships, my finances, or even the way I want to spend a single day—this voice creeps in.
Not mine.
Theirs.
The voice of my family.
The voice of society.
The voice of what’s expected.
“They’ll think I’ve lost it.”
“That I’m being irresponsible.”
“That I’m throwing away a perfectly good life.”
And just like that, I freeze.
What’s wild is—I don’t get judged that much anymore. At least not openly. But the echoes are still there. The memories. The pattern. I’ve been shaped by years of hearing what a “good” life should look like. What a “smart” decision sounds like. What “stability” means. And when I step outside that frame, even now, it stirs something deep.
It shows up everywhere.
Who I love.
How I spend my money.
What kind of lifestyle I choose.
Whether I settle down, stay single, have kids, travel, work remotely, start a business, or take a break.
Every time I try to make a choice that feels true to me, that old fear shows up:
What will they think?
Will they see me as ungrateful? Unrealistic? Selfish? Immature?
But here’s the thing—every time I’ve taken a risk, every time I’ve made a decision that felt aligned with my soul (not just the script), it’s led me somewhere real. Sometimes it brought happiness. Sometimes heartbreak. But it always brought me closer to myself.
And that’s worth everything.
I still want to be close to the people I love. I still care what they think—maybe more than I’d like to admit. But I’m learning that I don’t need their approval to live a beautiful, meaningful life. I don’t need the world to nod in agreement before I choose what makes me feel alive.
I’m not here to live a life that makes sense to everyone else.
I’m here to live a life that makes sense to me.
And yes—it might look “crazy” to some.
But what’s crazier is ignoring your own voice, your own values, your own heart… just to fit into someone else’s mold.
I’m not doing that anymore.
This is my life.
And I’m choosing to live it on my terms—in every area, every day.
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